Growing up we don’t realize the sacrifice our parents make for us until we become parents. Love is out of this world, making you wonder how parents can leave their kids. Me and my siblings were all given up. This was the best thing any of us could have experienced! We were able to escape the horrors of the selfishness of those who desired wickedness. We were able to break the chain because of the love of selfless people. Growing up I would hear numerous comments about how broken I should be. I never felt that way. Having a happy family is what everyone wants for their family!
My parent’s selfless actions helped me watch the world in a way I would otherwise have been unable to. From death to love I knew I needed to have something to fall back on. I especially realized that once I became a mother myself. I learned that parenting has nothing to do with how your child is but with how you are as a person. Heck, they don’t call it parenting for no reason. Most would agree, but if we want people to listen, especially our children, we need to change. Changing ourselves allows people to listen without us ever talking.
As parents we also have to be open with our children. We should teach them everything we can so when they go through the tough times they are not alone. Knowing they are not alone when you can’t be there is more powerful than you think. Knowing through prayer and mentorship you are there.
The most important thing you can do for your children is to love them. Even if it means saying no. There are so many times I want to give in and give my girls everything they could ever want! But no. That is not the love we think it is. Actually, giving to our kids like that, in my opinion, is pure selfishness. Love teaches them the good life and how they can provide to others without praise. Feeling the goodness to give and the joy from being humbled.
Now I say these statements with knowledge from pure experience, and not in a way that this is a must. We all have our convictions, and sometimes questioning yourself is the greatest challenge to accept.
Practicing makes you Humble
Whether you know what you’re doing because you have some odd years under your belt doesn’t mean much, especially with parenting! So often older generations like to get in your head about how you may be doing things because it worked out for them. That can also go vice versa with how much information is at our fingertips now. I am one that can definitely be guilty of both! And being reminded of that through humility is so refreshing.
We don’t, always, laugh at our little ones when they mess up. But if we do we often cheer them on so they keep learning and don’t give up! Showing them we are not perfect like they will eventually think someday, is a learning experience no one can give them but us as parents! Even the smartest of smart and the richest of rich keep learning by being a beginner in something.
Lastly living with no fear is the hardest part of life. When you’re a parent you fear everything! Heck, since the day my oldest daughter was born my worry has never gone away but only shifted! I am not perfect by far but I know I need to work on this. This world is unpredictable, as well as people, and putting our fear in the man up above is the only place fear should exist! Anger comes with fear, gossip, and violence all come out of fear, and taking each day as it comes and shifting your mindset creates a happy family no matter how broken.
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Everybody has got a story but we can’t let it overcome us. Teaching those who desire to listen is a must. Thriving for a happy family when motherhood is overwhelming is hard but not bad. Those are not my words but I heard them somewhere and they stuck. Seasons are short, and you may even find that you will miss them no matter how they are. Don’t give up and give in to this world. This is the most important job we will have. Train for it and do it and know that what we do is not enough and that shouldn’t stop us. Not being enough is fine but dwelling on it is not necessarily right either. No one knows what they are doing and that’s okay. You will still have a happy family.
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