Motherhood is not for the weak
Being a mom is the most important job we will ever have in our lifetime. That being said like anything great and important being a mom is not easy. That is why I finally decided to sit down and dig up some quotes about motherhood that I like to refer back to when I am reaching a burn out moment.
As moms we need to vent in order to get through some seasons in life but that does not mean that we do not love our kids. Venting ONLY means we love our children so much that we become scared of messing them up. Proving we ONLY do our best to make sure we provide them with what they need, both physically and mentally.
I am not a person that likes attention ,but I quite often hear other mothers complain about no one being excited to see them, only their children. As much as that attention is hard to give away there is almost always gratitude loved ones will praise you for allowing your children to be present in their lives. Without you, mom, there would be no children. So when you visit that distant relative again you have to remind your self that not only do your children have an abundance of love coming from others but they receive love because you show them how to love others.
The Other Side of Motherhood
There is also that famous saying , “being a mother is a thankless job”. While it can seem like it, especially within those hard moments, there is something to be said. It really is not a thankless job. Being a mother is a title that will always thank you as long as you listen.
By this I mean when you are old and gray and you’re sitting at home reminiscing about the young years you children are surviving this wild world. Whether you know it or not your children are thanking you. They are living life wondering how you did it while making it look so easy.
Motherhood is not a thankless job. In fact it’s a job that is so full of thanks that we just don’t hear it, we just have to see and watch our handiwork unfold into greatness.
We all have heard “just be grateful that…” saying and sometimes, though intentions are great, it can devalue our feelings towards whatever it is we are feeling. When life gets to be overwhelming we need to bring our selves down to earth.
What I mean…
A perfect example of what I mean is looking over the level of value in what is going on within life season. For instance, I have been struggling with my 6 month old daughters sleep for 2+ weeks now. I found that I was finding too much value in the schedule. I needed to sit and remind my self her cry is a reminder of how important I am to her. Also that her cries are a reminder of the health we have that we so often take for granted. Yes, I know it may seem that this Idea falls under the ” Just be grateful” tag line, but this mindset is because of YOU. You have control in what you see is important is life and what it has to offer.
Even in this instagram world, comparison is a skill that needs to be lost. As always making do with what you have , materialistic and not, is how life can seem more in your control.
Journey of Motherhood
Through the two years I have been a mother I have found that not only is this journey a messy one, literally, but motherhood put me in the position of leadership. I am so thankful I was put in this position of leadership because there are some very valuable skills that come from it. Though my husband is the head of our household, rules tend to almost always get finalized though me to make sure our family is functioning how it should.
Work together as a Family
My husband is an amazing father! I am so beyond thankful that we chose to have children together! But God made our roles truly different for a reason! My husband has lots of talents that I would love to learn but don’t have the skills for and vice versa. This goes to say we respect each others strengths and I am blessed he sees my strength in leading our children. I know he truly respects it because he sees my work and always comes to me for my opinions when filling in the holes that I can’t get to right away within our home.
That being said, there was a very short time that I took his appreciation for my mothering skills for granted. I would tell my self he could do what I do. While I would also ask my self why isn’t he doing something? Until I realized he has 100% trust in my leadership as a mother.
Burn out is real. But you define your own burnout as a mother and not the world. Set your boundaries and don’t allow the outside determine your families way.
As always remember that hard does not mean bad.
If you enjoyed me picking your brain about motherhood check out Advice for a New Mom| Its okay to be a bad mom, you are not enough.